Having friends and meaningful relationships is arguably one of the most important keys to happiness in life. It probably the most important key, aside from our health, to our overall happiness and well-being, and there are a few key skills to remember that can not only improve your relationships, but also provide massive benefits to your mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
Some of these took me years to realize, but I wanted to write an article based on the wealth of experience I’ve had during my spiritual journey, and about 8 keys to instantly make any relationship more fulfilling, whether it’s romantic, friendship, acquaintances, or even someone you meet just one time.
How to Make Friends:
1) Always focus on building a connection with peopleA connection is based on sharing of an emotional experience with another person. This means when you’re talking to someone, you share stories about your life, you ask them about theirs. Find out what commonalities you share, what your passions are between the two of you (this allows you to pursue these passions together and bond over them), and figure out what the two of you want out of life, and see if there’s some way you can use the power of helping to multiply your power and help each other achieve your dreams together, and create something you’ll be able to look back on with happiness.
2) Remember that we’re all the same, yet very differentEvery person is a unique individual, and you want to find out who’s underneath the skin and bones, because everyone you meet will have had a unique set of experiences that you didn’t, and will have learned things from those experiences that can improve and make your life a better and happier place to be in, and what you learn from other people can also be passed down by you to benefit others.
3) Remember that you have something special to offerJust as we can learn from others, you too have had a unique set of experiences. And once you get in touch with your core self, embrace who you are, and become comfortable in your own skin, you can appreciate that you’re a unique individual who has a lot you can give the world that other people can’t, and you can focus on using what you’ve been given to create something great for the world that no one else could possibly create—something that is 100% an expression of YOU.
4) Always be yourselfMany of us look at certain aspects of others lives in envy; we think “if I had their money”, “if I had their looks” or “if I was more popular”… but what we fail to realize is that by being someone else, and not being ourselves, we’re like a round peg trying to force ourselves into a square hole, because we assume, given our PRESENT situation, that having this one thing would make us happy or fulfilled, but what we fail to realize is that we’ve all got our own unique instrument to play in the orchestra of life. And if we’d just be willing to play our instrument instead of someone else’s, we tap into our own unique skills, interests, and talents, and be able to give something to the world that no one else can based on our unique set of experiences and wisdom.
5) Leave something good behind everywhere you goYou don’t want to just be born and die. You want to come here, express your uniqueness, learn, grow, and use that unique experience to create something that is going to leave an impact on the world long after you were gone, just because YOU were here, so make priority no. 1 how you can make an impact and do something great that is going to transform the lives of millions of people just because you were born; because, ultimately, when you’re gone, what you’ve left behind is the only thing that is going to give your life meaning.
6) Never force thingsThis is something I’m VERY passionate about, and I know this can be hard to accept sometimes when things look like they’re at their worst in the moment… but the truth is we can’t see the “big picture” of how all are circumstances are going to turn out, and we can’t truly know if a situation was bad or good in the greater scheme of things, until we see where it leads us down the road.
7) Never try to control other peopleAll too often we like to say “if he did this I wouldn’t be so miserable” or “if she did this I would be happy”… but the truth is you can only choose to move your own arms and legs, you can’t control other people’s behavior, and you can’t expect other people to do things just to make you happy; if you’re not happy within, nothing on the outside is ever going to make you happy.
8) Don’t judge othersIf you watch people, you’ll constantly see people criticizing others for things they say or do, when in reality the people doing the criticizing are equally imperfect, and have faults in other areas that are equally bad, yet they try to convince themselves they’re somehow superior to others because they look at the world a certain way. Remember that we’re all human, and that you have flaws, which means you don’t have the right to believe you’re superior to others in any way. Additionally, judging others only spreads hate and bad karma, and that’s not something we want to add more of to the world.
Remember that the key to doing anything is having a simple awareness of how to do it, and that if you can do just one thing that makes a positive impact on another person’s life, then do that one small thing with the next 100 people you meet, you’ve just brightened up the day of a hundred people.